Ramblings, Rants and Fieldnotes

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You don’t give love in order to get love. You give love in order to become love. I didn’t write that. And I don’t know who did. But it’s fucking awesome…This is for anybody this holiday season who is in it - the sticky tar pit of it. And, uh, you might feel a little defeated and can’t see the escape routes, sitting on the edge of their bed with the wind knocked out of their heart. People can tell you anything they want to about time and space and how it’ll get better, until you realize it for yourself. You just gotta feel it out. Don’t give up.
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We find meaning in our lives through stories. Life experience takes on meaning through being placed in a plot line, and plots have to do with the unfolding of events over time within a particular context. In all of our professional interactions, we listen for stories. This is different from listening for symptoms or ‘‘gathering information.’’ We listen and ask questions in order to generate experience of meaningful stories. A basic assumption in narrative work is that people’s lives are multistoried. This means that as we listen to any story, we believe that many other stories are possible.
Jill Freedman & Gene Combs, Narrative Ideas for Consulting with Communities and Organizations: Ripples from the Gatherings, Family Process, Vol. 48, No. 3, 2009, p 353. (via shrinkrants)

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It is professional arrogance for therapists to believe that they can tell people who they are. Clients must be free to tell us who they are and who they want to be. Theories are oppressive; the seek to impose one perspective on all people. Theory masquerading as reality is equally oppressive. There is no reality; there are only stories we tell about reality. (Norcross & Prochaska, 2010)

And BOOM! I just found my theoretical orientation as a therapist.

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Just because your pain is understandable, doesn’t mean your behavior is acceptable.

Maraboli, Steve. Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience (via wordsnquotes)

a truism most hard not to be guilty of - hurt we all seem to find it easer to lash out - comes with being human maybe

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